Saturday, August 20, 2011

Love yourself...or Not



Let's Think About It: You ever feel like you're not good enough? Not pretty enough? Not unique enough? Change yourself to please others? We all have our moments when we do. In this video you see a young lady dressing in tight, revealing clothing, struggling to get everything just right to impress others, but in the end it makes her frustrated and unhappy because she's not being or herself or doing it for herself. That's when the voice in her head comes in and assures her that she is beautiful and she should love herself for who she truly is. We all have those moments when we convince ourselves that we're less than others or something wrong with us, but at the end of the day you have to learn that its okay to be flawed because you're a beautiful imperfection. So with that said, do you truly love yourself, or not?

Monday, July 4, 2011

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.

Lao Tzu

I always feel stupid after crying...

I hate people that bitch and moan and complain. Im more of a “ what are you going to do about that shit?” type of person. But no one is exempt from certain types of pain. And for those…someone has to relieve you or it never truely goes away.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

The Pressure to be Pretty

" You don't have to be pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-worker, especially not to random men on the street. You don't owe pretty to your mother, you don't owe it to your children, you don't owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked FEMALE"

Just my luck discovering the above quote right when i was feeling like the pressure to always be "on" was upon me. I can honestly say i am a fickle person. I obsess about something until i exhaust it's appeal and then I'm done with it for a while, in worse case scenarios sometimes forever. However, there's one thing that has always been synonymous with me and that is being "pretty". I've always been loyal to making sure my hair above all is always done and that I'm fashionable. Now you may or may not agree that I'm a pretty girl, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but pretty in the sense that I'm always pleasing to look at. I'm always presentable! As impossible as that may be, I'm a slave to trying to proving it to be true. I wouldn't dare leave my house if i wasn't sure of myself. I have no qualms about declining on certain experiences if i don't have an outfit to suit the occasion. Even in the cases where the situation doesn't merit a specific attire. I've never been the "throw on some Juicy sweats to run to the corner store" typa girl. I don't do ponytails since one may get the impression that i'm slack about my appearance, and i can't have that. Me? You buggin! For the most part the effort i put into my appearance has always paid off and looking good have, after all, gotten me my current reputation of a "Pretty girl", some may even say "Diva" , "she's always so stylish". One would be happy with that right? Smh.

Having the "pretty" stamp of approval by all is about it's only reward, and it's easily revoked. It's a job, and it doesn't pay well . "Pretty" also doesn't play well with others. I've had to sit on the sidelines of my life in order to always remain primmed and proper. If i couldn't excercise and still be pretty id opt out. I was always "fashionably late" cause i wasn't going to head out on time if it meant i had to compromise me being "pretty". Never mind the fact that it was important to show up on time and show a friend or family member my support. Nope pretty outweighted whatever their cause was.

In some cases cases "pretty" can't co-exist wit others either. Once you've achived that ultimate acholade of the pretty girl and you decide you want to persue other interests those who knew you before make it hard for you to shed your old skin. They may doubt that your even capable of anything else. You may also doubt yourself. Doubt that you have more to offer other than being pleasant to look at. Any way i digress....like the author of the quote pointed out it's ok to be pretty but it should be one amongst many other facets that make you great! "In the hierarchy of importance "pretty" stands several rungs down from happy, is way below healthy, and if done as a penance, or an obligation, can be so far away from independent(who you really are within) that you may have to squint really hard to see it in the haze".

At the end of the day i don't want to only be remembered or revered for being pretty. There's more to me... and to you. One shouldn't be pressured to always be pretty because females are supposed to be. Don't feel bad if you take time away from "pretty" to pursue other interests.

More to life...



Disclaimer: The point of the post was not to draw attention to personal appearance or to paint a picture of myself to be perceived or judged a certain way. It is more for you to see where you stand on the topic and how you judge others that don't measure up to the standard of "Pretty".

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Make-up

I'm no different from the next girl. We share an obsession with makeup and fashion. However, often times this obsession conflicts with our spirits and inwardly we yearn to be proud of our natural beauty. Makeup is meant to be an enhancement. Its not meant to define our beauty...that gift was God given.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Thursday, September 30, 2010

So much topics to post on...don't know where to start...but i'll start working on them

Monday, April 12, 2010

Quote

" The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for

-Maureen Dowd

Saturday, January 23, 2010

"The One"

"It's the moment you realize someone knows you well enough to see the sum total of all your flawed parts and decides you're worth more than your shortcomings"
-Belle in Brooklyn